The Touching Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas.

The Story Of My Life-------by Mrs.Roseline Nnawuihe My name is Roseline Nnawuihe. I am the wife of Nze Benjamin Nnawuihe from Umuezukwe, Awo-Omamma, Imo state, Nigeria, and we live in Dallas. I have been following very closely the various write-ups on the internet, especially those written by my husband with regard to the upcoming Orlu elections in Dallas, and I have come to the conclusion that I can no longer keep quiet while innocent people¢s character and personality are slowly but surely being destroyed. For those who have been following the internet lately, Mr. Benjamin Nnawuihe in his most recent writings, indicated that me his wife, has been sleeping around with other men. He has also waged a war against another man who he claims is the cause of all his family problems. I have been married to Benjamin Nnawuihe for 20years, and had 5 children for him. I was married to him at the age of 18years, and joined him in Dallas from Nigeria after my high school. For those 20years of marriage which can pass for 20years of bondage and slavery, I have had to endure constant physical abuse, verbal abuse, and emotional abuse and mental torture in the hands of Mr. Nnawuihe. On my very first day in this country, he sat me down and lectured me on the ills of associating with other people. It did not matter who. He cut me off from all my relatives and my friends. He did not allow me to talk to anybody on the phone. He got me pregnant every year even when I protested, because according to him, he did not want all those men eying his beautiful wife. He would not let me out of the house unless to go to work or to go to the grocery, and I was on the time clock for both errands. When I come home from grocery, my husband will go through the list of items on the receipt to make sure they were only the things that he wanted. He would make me return any of the items to the store if it was a personal thing. For the purchase of the grocery, he will tear out one check leaf and write the name of the store on it. I have worked two jobs since my arrival in this country. God help me if I was running more than fifteen minutes late in coming home. I would get the physical beating of my life. He would call my job at school and make complaints to get me fired. He actually called the police a few years back and alleged that I was into Medicare fraud. I refused to call the police even when I was urged on by many people because I loved him, and also because he threatened my life if he ever had a police record. Even then, he still called the police himself and made a report just to build up a record against me. I would hide my bodily bruises from people, and lie just to protect him. Last year 2006, while he was leaving for ORA convention in Miami, he seized my cell phone so that I do not talk to anybody while he is away. When I tried to get the phone from him, he called the police and told them that I prevented him from making a 911 call. I thought it was all a joke until the police came and handcuffed me and put me in jail. I spent that weekend in jail while he was away in Miami enjoying himself. I had no way of contacting anybody. Even my children were helpless and stayed at home hungry. My 16year old son then contacted my friend Mrs. Livina Ike who contacted a lawyer. That lawyer was attorney Godson Anyanwu who bailed me from jail and handled that case. He is a living witness today. This man is so insecure that I got a beating anytime he sighted me greeting any man, even if they are his relatives. Whenever we went to parties together, we will always leave early fighting all the way home just because a man asked me for a dance and he would attack the person. At my age, I still look VERY GOOD, and I am grateful to my God for that. Every man that talked to me or complemented me was my lover. I have gradually learned to put up some resistance and not curl up like a baby and cry all day as I used to. Benjamin Nnawuihe can talk and bark all night long when he is mad, and still go to work in the morning. He forbade me from owning a cell phone because he wanted to make sure I was not talking to other men behind him. It was not until two years ago after I had a tire blow-out on my way from work and was stranded on the highway at midnight that I disobeyed him and got a cell phone. Even though I have been the major bread-winner in the household, I will always handover my paycheck to Ben every pay day as he instructed, and I was forbidden from owning a bank account, or to call my parents in Nigeria, not to talk of sending any money to them to feed with. Benjamin has never been gainfully employed since I arrived in this country, but he was able to build a house in Nigeria with all the money he collected from me. It was only a few years ago that I disobeyed him and opened an account because it was becoming difficult for him to give me money even to buy my under-wears. My husband¢s relationship with his children is even worse. He beats and abuses them on the slightest pretext. He does not know how those children are fed or clothed. Unlike other fathers he does notparticipate in any of the children¢s school activities. When they disagree with him on any issue, he threatens to disown them. For the past one year, he is not on speaking terms with our 17year old son because he does not agree with his father¢s treatment of me and Benjamin Nnawuihe has told him several times that he is not his father. Anybody who has seen this boy will see the carbon copy of Benjamin Nnawuihe. Mr. Nnawuihe has not allowed me to travel to Nigeria since 1999 even when my father died, or even to go see my sick old mother. Through all these years, I have been very supportive of my husband. I have been faithful to him till this day but he will always accuse me of sleeping around due to his insecurity. He is a very hateful and wicked man and he does not forgive. People see him as a very angry man who never smiles, and they wonder how I have put up with him all these years. He does not have any friends because he cannot keep friends. His politics is that of bitterness and personal destruction. He is very devilish and should be avoided by decent people. In 2004 he had a land dispute at home with a man from Umuezukwe, Awo-Omamma. While traveling to Nigeria that year, he swore that the young man will not be alive to live on that piece of property. He later rushed back to the United States suddenly. I later learned that the young man in the land dispute has been shot dead by unknown people. Is Ben Nnawuihe a murderer? You be the Judge.This is just one of several cases. Let me get to the issue about Dr. Okechukwu. For the records, let me state that I have never had any extramarital affairs with anybody for that matter since I married Mr. Benjamin Nnawuihe. My God knows this, and Benjamin Nnawuihe knows this. In 2005 OOPA elections, I was running for the post of PRO against Mr. Ifeanyi Iwunze who is Dr. Okechukwu¢s good friend. I was not comfortable going through with an election because I felt that I will lose because people hate my husband. I was advised by those who know him to approach Dr. Okechukwu to help in urging Mr. Iwunze to step down for me because they were very good friends. My husband was not in good terms with the Iwunze family, so I asked Dr. Okechukwu not to tell my husband about it because he will feel insulted. Later on, my husband saw details of phone calls between me and Dr. Okechukwu on our phone bill and accused me of sleeping with him. He refused to listen to any explanations. About two weeks later n December 2005, Dr. Okechukwu visited us with his wife and children in what ndi-igbo call ¡igba oriko¢. They ate, drank, and spent the entire Sunday evening with us. Dr. Okechukwu used the opportunity to explain everything to my husband that nothing happened between us, and that it was just politics. Mr. Nnawuihe will not let the matter go. He called Dr. Okechukwu on the phone several times threatening that he will kill him, and Dr. Okechukwu reported the matter to the police. He has vowed that he will destroy Dr. Okechukwu¢s reputation in Dallas, United States, and Nigeria. He is going around telling people that Dr. Okechukwu writes me checks in thousands of dollars and bought a car for me. I am here to state that Dr. Okechukwu has not given me any money, and does not give me any money. For years I put up with Benjamin Nnawuihe letting me use the car to work when it pleases him, and seizing the keys when it does not please him. In order not to lose my job, I saved up some money to buy a car. Mr. Nnawuihe went with me the day I bought my car. It was the little money I saved up I used to make down payment like everyone else and I am carrying a car note. Anybody who has had an accident and been to a doctor will understand what I am about to say. I was involved in an accident with my car. I received treatment at Medical Rehabilitation clinic owned by Dr. Okechukwu/ Dr. Ezenagu/ Dr. Ozor. The money that was paid by the insurance company included $300 (three hundred dollars) for pain and suffering which was paid to me on the official clinic check. My husband seized that check till this day but continues to tell people that Dr. Okechukwu wrote a check for one thousand dollars for me. My husband knows the truth because he was aware of my treatment, and also because has had the same experience with Dr. Okechukwu in the past. If Mr. Nnawuihe can prove his story, then I am guilty of everything he has accused me of. My problems with Benjamin Nnawuihe started long before Dr. Okechukwu arrived in town, and has taken a turn for the worse since Acho Orabuchi and his wife got involved in my family affairs and became his chief adviser. I want people to ask around in Dallas what happened to several families that took Acho Orabuchi in as their friend and adviser. Ask Chief Ike. Ask Mr. Godwin Ibekwe, ask Mr. Festus Okorie. Where do I stop? Yet Acho Orabuchi continues to live with his own wife Ngozi Kate Orabuchi who was arrested for shoplifting in 1997, and again convicted of shoplifting and theft in 1999. If Acho Orabuchi wants me to post the public record on the internet, let him declare that I am lying. This same people will go on the internet, pass moral judgments on others and circulate salacious materials about them. Are the Orabuchis home wreckers and more? You be the judge. I have no University education because Benjamin Nnawuihe wanted me only to work and not go to school. My grammar may not be the best, but I have tried my best with some of my educated female friends to put my ideas together in this story. My experience in the hands of Mr. Benjamin Nnawuihe will fill a whole novel. I have only given a brief summary of it. Anybody reading my story will ask why I am telling it. I have two reasons. The world must know the truth about who Benjamin Nnawuihe really is because he has taken the moral high ground and he has put his family matter out there. I left Benjamin Nnawuihe nine months ago while he was in Nigeria because knowing him, that is the only time that I can leave safely. I have waited this long to do it because I wanted my children to grow up a little more in a family setting with a father and a mother but Benjamin Nnawuihe chose not to be a responsible father. I will wonder for the rest of my life if I made a good decision, but I leave it in Gods hands. The second reason for my story is that I believe there are hundreds of women out there married to Nigerian men who are living my life. They need to know that they have a choice. If there is anybody out there who thinks that what Benjamin Nnawuihe has done to me is acceptable, it is my prayers that their daughters meet the same fate when they marry. I do not have much access to the internet. I am asking whosoever that reads my story to please send it out to as many forums as they have access to. Silence they say is golden. But if you are dealing with a mad, sad, disgruntled man like Benjamin Nnawuihe, silence will no longer be golden. Thank you for taking the time to read my story and may God bless you.